BBC's Sherlock and Bad Parenting

My 7 yr old and I were watching BBC's Sherlock and the dead bodies weren't a problem (although they probably should have been), the naked chick however (basically a nudist) convinced me to shut it down. "Oh man," as I closed the tablet "well sorry you had to see that bud. Honestly I'm not sure why she's naked." He stared off quietly thinking. After a pause, "maybe that's her style"... Ladies and gentlemen, my child.

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Learning to Trust Through Love

I came across a post from the BookFace group "Mothers Need to Vent". First of all I love this group because its a great way for moms to just let it all out without being judged. A mom had realized that her tendency to be a fearful mom was putting her in a place with a lot of doubt. When her kid asked her if they could sleep over at a friend's, her fear of their innocence being compromised took over and she would reject their request. She was afraid they would be up against peer pressure to do something wrong and the fear that she wouldn't be there for them. This was my response: I'll tell you what I tell my kid because lord knows I am not a saint; just because someone else does something doesn't mean you have to do it. If you hear someone say a bad word, it's okay to hear it, to witness it, it doesn't mean you have to go out the re and do the same thing. But it starts with trust between you and your kid. You raised them to be good kids. If you trust ...

My Kid Is Not a Bully

TL;DR (Too Long; Didn't Read) The dad in this feels guilty that he hasn't been spending enough time with his kid which is no excuse for letting him bully other kids. We want to believe our children are good. When we feel guilty about their negative behavior, we blame it on ourselves. We want to deflect any pain they might feel and take it on as though it is our burden, not theirs. In this case, the act of leniency one too many times had created a ripple effect causing pain. Don't feel guilty. You are not your child or more importantly your child is not you, but you are your child's guardian. You need to make sure this person blooms into a positive member of society, it is your responsibility to make sure they aren't assholes. So nurture them now and let them know when they're wrong, even if you've been wrong. We begin our story: The kid on first base gradually showed signs of frustration towards his teammate positioned at the pitcher’s mound. They we...

Of God, Gods and None

Driving home from Kindergarten last year, my kid said something that almost made me pull my car over. “Mama – did you know that God made all the things?” I was shocked and responded carefully, I recognized that I was reacting out of fear and needed to check my shit at the door. “Who told you that, honey?” Before I start I need to explain that, thankfully, I wasn’t traumatized by religion growing up. I grew up in a typical Roman Catholic house; we went to church every Sunday, celebrated Easter, midnight mass on Christmas Eve and prayed during Thanksgiving dinner and sometimes-regular dinner. It wasn’t so much about what I believed so much as it was rituals we acted out that my parents were really into. My mom grew up with Franco the dictator during Spain’s post civil war, a man very fond of Opus Dei. My father also grew up with very strong religious influences as a Latino. With that being said, surprisingly my parents gave us kids a lot of liberty to grow into our own. For exam...

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